How to break up with someone?

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You most likely know in a short amount of time whether you are feeling it or not. You might even convince yourself that you may be thinking the wrong way or you should give it another chance. Realistically in your gut you know it’s over.

The longer you wait, the more it gets dragged out and the longer the other feelings might increase. The faster you can get it done, the better it will be. The longer you wait, the nastier it will be. You are leading someone on. You are making them believe and frankly wasting their time as well as yours.

Let’s dive into some stats:

• On average, 70% of breakups occur mostly in the first year of a relationship.

• Men heal faster than women after breakups.

• Around 57% of people break up in person.

• 37% of people believe text breakups are moderately acceptable.

• Infidelity is the cause of 60% of couple breakups.

• 71% feel 3 months is enough time to heal from breakups.

  What did I used to do that has been successful in a cordial breakup and most importantly fostered a friendly relationship afterward? --- Tell them right away.

You might ask, what did I use to do that has led to a successful cordial breakup and most importantly fostered a friendly relationship afterward? --- Tell them right away. (Yes I know I just wrote a post about whether you remain friends with your ex)

The second you are feeling like you’d like to move on, end it, and end it honestly. Tell them exactly why. Don’t beat around the bush. It is ok if something doesn’t work. Everyone is not meant to be together. The easiest way for them to be respectful is for you to be honest with them and then let them loose.

The amount of stress you will take off yourself by getting it over with will surpass the stress of letting it lag on. Everyone knows the feeling of the days, weeks, or months you know it’s over. The awkwardness, the unnecessary hate, the arguments, etc. You can let that all go out the window if you just end it.

In my opinion, there are two ways of ending it: (1) call (2) facetime (3) meeting face to face, the most important.

This is what you shouldn’t do: (1) do it over a text (2) ghost them (3) stall it so they break up with you (4) start something else on the side

If you follow the don't do’s, trust me, it will end in a nightmare, and I am guilty of all four of those things. My best friends are all guilty of those things. When we do it, we know what we are doing and afterward all know we were doing the wrong thing. For some reason, we didn’t have the balls to just drop it. Not because we didn’t feel bad, but mostly because we didn’t have the confidence or just didn’t want to deal with it.

All of the above DON’T DO’s, are things that should be avoided at all costs. Be respectful, be honest, close the door, and move on.

When thinking this way, some questions should be entertained.

Do you want to stay in contact with your ex? How do you get over missing them? What if they’re going to get back together with you? What if they try to keep it going?

These are all some good questions, certainly not all questions but most likely also deserve honest answers. So think about them deeply. Don’t think about how you might make them feel. You may be called selfish. You may even think you are being selfish which is ok also. In the end of the day, this is a time where you can be greedy. You have to think about yourself, your happiness and their happiness so just be confident. It will end up better in the long run.

Let me know if there is a topic you want to hear about, types of stories you want to hear, or anything you want to help you. Remember, everything is in confidence and with anonymity.

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-TCM

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