Social Media is Breeding Insecurity

Have you ever looked at the screentime on your phone? (If iPhone; Settings -> Screen Time -> See All Apps and Website Activity) ----I bet you are shocked or scared to look. I remember looking at mine and calculating how much time I wasted looking at what others were doing, how they looked, how I could change to match someone’s behaviors, attire, etc. It was something like one day a month or twelve days a year. You heard that correctly; Twelve days of my life was completely wasted going through social media (mostly Instagram or dating apps) with pretty much no benefit to my life. 12 DAYS GONE! Arrivederci!

Let me give you a little more insight to scare you. US adults spend 54 minutes per day on TikTok (13.5 days wasted/year), 35 minutes (8.75 days wasted/year) on Instagram, and 32 mins (8.75 days wasted/year) on Facebook. Over 10 years on Instagram that’s 87.5 days wasted on Instagram. That’s almost three months of your life judging others and feeling more insecure about your life. If that doesn’t freak you out, it freaks me out.

You ever hear the quote, “the one thing you can never get back is time”. Now think about how much time you or others might be losing. People you know who are spending way more time on social media than you. Incredible. You could be doing so many other things to better yourself.

To add to that, have you ever realized how the growth of active social media use is correlated with the growth of our population’s insecurities? How some people might view others on social media, or their lives then get insecure because it isn’t what they have, are doing, or look like. It’s truly incredible. In my opinion It should be abolished from the world. It is causing people to go crazy over comparing themselves to others from kids with video games, teenagers dating, influencers promoting products they don’t use, young adults upset they aren’t getting married like their friend, gender reveals, filtering, adults currently married comparing themselves to others or other singles. All of this is bat shit crazy and causing our minds to deplete all evolution we have gained.

My buddy recently has been considering getting back with his ex. His ex , this time around, was very apologetic for her actions and admitted that it was all due to her massive insecurities. One of the issues was social media. She was seeing how others were looking, like couples (loving admiration, trips, etc.), realizing she didn’t have that then taking it out on the relationship. What she failed to understand was that it doesn’t matter what others do because most of the time, especially on social media, things aren’t what they seem. All that matters is who you are and what you make of your life. Insecurity is a weakness that your mind taught itself yet could be deleted entirely from your life if you wanted. With the snap of a finger or push of a button on your phone. It’s not DNA. Its bullshit.

With the growth of insecurity comes the deterioration of confidence. If you’re confident, you don’t have insecurities. You don’t need insecurities. Insecurities can be worse than most diseases. Withering away your confidence. Adding stress. Crushing your sole.

Always remember, confidence is the key to ANYTHING. Stay strong. And get the fuck off social media.

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-TCM