How to get attention from the opposite sex?

“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence”

Blake Lively

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In the next few newsletters, my wife and I will write our different perspectives on the entire dating process. Example: I will write about getting the attention of the opposite sex, then she will. We’ll take it all through every dating milestone.

Dress (How you look)

The absolute most important part. This is the differentiator in the first second they see you. Do you look good? Are your clothes nice? Do you have style? Does it reflect your personality? All of which are very important.

Regarding your attire specifically, please take the easy steps to look good. Wear clothes that fit you (a new T-shirt over one from college is great). You can get amazingly affordable and fit tees in different varieties/colors from Fresh Clean Tees. Make sure it doesn’t look like you rolled out of bed. Do your hair. Match your shoes. Don’t dress to stand out. Stand out with your confidence. Whatever you want to wear, rock it. Do you want to go to the bar in joggers? Go for it. Walk in like you did it on purpose.  

Have you ever seen the person who looked like they got dressed in the dark, or hasn’t learned from college, or the person who is clearly uncomfortable in what they are wearing (always fixing, always checking, etc.)? You know you don’t want to be that person.

Hygiene

Shower always if you can. Get haircuts. Do your hair. Groom your beard. Shave. For the love of God, brush your teeth. Crest 3D Optimum White toothpaste. Easy way to keep them looking good. Great teeth stand out. I mean, you are smiling.

Believe it or not, being put together is different. Being different these days is being different. Have you ever seen a red or yellow car on the road? Stands out immediately because they are rare. When it’s out of the ordinary or different from the pack, you notice it.

Bad breath, oily hair, bad skin, dirty fingertips, etc., are more common than you think. Do you see people walking through the airport these days? My god. You get what I’m saying. A few extra minutes can make you stand out.

Smile & Eye Contact

Wherever you are, walk with the 90’s RomCom, make it seem slow motion, quick glance. Make eye contact. One of the most important parts also. Giving a smile while walking with proper eye contact is perfect. For the love of god, don’t wink.

Smiling and eye contact will make them think you caught their attention. Not many people will approach you but letting them think you’re just as interested is the easiest way to make other people think you are. At the very least, it makes your approach that much easier but why not save your energy for more difficult tasks?

The Touch Barrier

This one is make or break. You must be precise and confident in your choice. Do you give a simple touch when you go by? Is it a tight bar/restaurant where a light casual touch of the arm while walking by is acceptable? Do you have the confidence to do the light hip touch? (all advanced skillsets which we will get into in later posts).

Many important questions, some of which you may not even have thought of. You might as well flip a coin. It’s either way too much and you’re out, or it’s the perfect amount and it made you get their attention more. Have you ever gotten the “i’m flirting with you” touch that’s a bit too much? Maybe a couple of seconds of extra hold. The type that immediately makes you think you won’t be able to get rid of them. Don’t be that person. Keeping it light will keep them guessing. No one likes questions unanswered. We are naturally impatient.

The way you look, your hygiene, the smile, the eye contact, and the potential casual touch barrier are the easiest ways to get someone’s attention.

Let me know if there is a topic you want to hear about, types of stories you want to hear, or anything you want to help you. Remember, everything is in confidence and with anonymity.

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-TCM